Friday, November 1, 2013

~ My Heart ...

... is heavy ...
for Kelly.
Some of you know Kelly and what she's been going through this year.
On Tuesday evening, October 29, 2013,
Sally Ann Crooks, Kelly's Mom,
lost her battle with cancer.
Kelly was there by her side.
I am going to dedicate my Random 5 Friday 
to Kelly.
1.  Kelly, I understand your pain.
I lost my mother ... back in 1984 ...
sometimes it feels like yesterday.
I am so sorry.
2.  It felt like it took forever before I could think of my Mom and not cry my eyes out.
I felt lost without her in my life.
I felt empty without her in my life.
The sense of loss was overwhelming.
But you will survive the grief.
And there will come the time when you will think about her
and you will smile.
"When you lose your parents,
the sadness doesn't go away.
It just changes." ~ Judi Watson
3.  Do not fight the grieving process.
Do not let anyone tell you that enough time has passed.
Or even that not enough time has passed.
Some days you may feel perfectly fine ...
other days you will feel like you are being shook like a storm.
"Life Lesson #3:  You can't rush grief.
It has its own timetable.
All you can do is make sure there are lots of soft places around -
beds, pillows, laps, arms."
~ Patti Davis
4.  Kelly, keep doing the things that you love to do.
Keep life going ... as difficult as it may feel at times.
It's what your Mom would want.
"Grief is love turned into an eternal missing."
~ Rosamund Lipton
5.  I spoke with Kelly yesterday.
She is my idol.  She is such a strong woman.
She told me how she held her Mom's hand through this journey.
She told me how she watched as her Mom took her last breath.
Her Mom was at peace.
Kelly was at peace.
Heaven has a new angel.

Kelly, I am here for you.
Whenever.  Whatever.  Forever.

Much love.


  1. i have been through loss many times. i wish i knew what to say but there is not that perfect thing to say. just listening is the key. so i think. a hug. a smile. a card. a memory. kind words. ( :

  2. I'm so glad you let us know about this Diane -- I've been thinking of her but didn't have a chance to get over to her blog. xo

  3. This was so kind of you to reach out to your friend. Losing a parent is so hard. I lost my father 16 years ago, and I still miss him. In times of loss, we all need friends, and you are a true friend to Kelly. :-)

  4. Diane- I'm speechless and touched beyond words. Literally-I don't know what to say except thank you from the bottom of my heart-you have been a constant through my storm and I'll be eternally grateful. I can't wait to hug your neck for the first time. Xoxo always my friend.

  5. Such Love and Wisdom here today.
    Thank you.

  6. Wonderful words for Kelly, and thank you for update on her mom's passing. I have kept her in my thoughts and prayers.

  7. Thank you, Aug, for this wonderful tribute to Kelley and her Mom. It is like a taste of sweet and sour to my feelings. I am sorry about your Mom too. Mine died in 1999, Mrs. Jim and I were just about to land at the time of her death. Out our windows we could see down on big puffy clouds sitting above Omaha (Nebraska). A fellow passenger said she could envision an Angel sitting on top of every one, just waiting for some work to do down on earth. I will never forget that, Mom died just at that time. We did not get to tell her goodbye. But even though I could not see the angels I like to think that hers was ordered down to escort Mom to her new home in Heaven.

    You no doubt have the feeling like I do, there isn't anything like it, of "I do not have a Mom." We all should be glad though that we did have a time with our Moms. Some never do have that time.

  8. Diane....this is such a touching post. Kelly must be a very special sorry for the loss of her Mom.

  9. Diane, so sorry to read this ...
    wonderful and touching words for Kelly !
    Thinking of you all,

  10. Oh my...I have been thinking about Kelly and all this past year has brought her way. A beautiful post Diane. So many great words of wisdom. Sending prayers Kelly's way.

  11. A very touching post. It is true that grief must have its way, and the length of time it takes is unique to each griever. Prayers for your friend.

  12. Oh I am so sorry Kelly. This is a beautiful tribute. B

  13. I am so sorry to read this, but you did a fantastic job with this beautiful tribute and comforting words!

  14. I'm so sorry about your friend's mom. Your tribute is so very touching. It's just about 6 years now since my dad passed. It seems like yesterday. My prayers are with your friend today. xo

  15. It must be a tough time for your friend. I am very sorry for her loss, my condoleances. Your words to her are so beautiful though. I am sure it will make her feel loved. <3

  16. Oh my this post is so emotional and beautiful. I can't imagine life without my mom but I know the time is coming soon as my mom will be 85 in January and let's face it no one lives forever. I lost my dad nearly 16 years ago and it still hurts at times. That quote about the Sadness never going away but just changing is so true. I've visited Kelly's blog and left her a post to express my sympathy on the loss of her mom. I know it's only words but hopefully she finds comfort in them as with other's who have left her comforting messages.

  17. This was a beautiful post. I too held my moms hand as she took her last breath. She also died of cancer. In fact this time of year is when she went into the hospital.

  18. What a tender touching post..
    40 yrs for me..this Dec..
    Longing seems to last forever for me..


  19. My hugs and prayers go out to Kelly and her family. She has had the lion's share of matters to deal with this year and I pray that peace and tranquility find its way into her life. Your words and quotes are so, so true. It has been 5 years since I lost my mom - I still relive her last minutes, sometimes it is a treasured memory, other times gut wrenching.

    Your post is wonderful.

  20. Beautiful post. My mother died in 1990 and ultimately I came out the other side, but it was tough. After twenty plus years the memories are all sweet, even though I know all of the time wasn't sweet. My prayers for Kelly and family.

  21. This is such a beautiful post. So sweet of you to tribute a post to Kelly..


  22. I don't know Kelly but what a touching tribute. I've lost both my parents now. I feel like an orphan.

  23. What an touching post and such a sweet thing to do for your friend.

    Hugs and Kisses,

  24. Very nice post...I feel sadness for Kelly. But thank God she had such a wonderful relationship with her mom and she is not left wondering why things had to be the way they were....which is what all of us kids do about our mom.

  25. My Mom died 3 years ago this month, my feelings for her and the loss I feel are still very raw. I tear up whenever I think of her, which is frequently. Such a beautiful post and dedication to Kelly. Yeah, this past year has been really hard on her, you are a loving friend, thank you!!


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